30 Lessons in 30 Years
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30 lessons I’ve learned in the last 30 years. The world is a pretty crazy place right now. One that’s full of questions that have very few answers. But despite the uncertainty, life goes on and, whether I like it or not, I’m still another year older today. To honor the occasion, I’m sharing 30 lessons I’ve learned
in my 30 years. I have always struggled with weight issues,
which means I’ve tried so many diets over the years…and they all suck. So, eat
the brownie but maybe take the stairs instead of the elevator. It’s all about
balance. It never fails, if my car is going to break
down, it’s going to happen at the worst possible time. I used to be completely
unprepared every time it happened and would scramble to try to cover the cost.
These days, we have money set aside for emergencies which makes a stressful
situation a lot less stressful. This has become a mantra of mine for the past few years. Sometimes things happen that just flat out suck. And you can wallow and cry and rage about it. Or you can decide that it really isn’t. that important in the grand scheme of things and move on. I’ve written about how much my family means to me before, in planning our wedding and deciding to move back home. I can’t even begin to explain how lucky I feel to have the family I do, to know that I always have a soft place to land and people that love me. My mama and I certainly butted heads when I
was a teenager. Partly because I was a teenager and teenagers are dumb, and
partly because, as it turns out, I’m exactly like her. I only wish I knew then
what I know now…she was always right. It’s easy to feel obligated to say yes to
everything, whether it’s a social engagement or more tasks at work. But saying
yes to everything only leads to burn out and resentment. It’s okay to say no
sometimes. I know it’s cliché, but it’s true. I wasn’t looking for love or a relationship when Scott showed up in my life. In fact, if you’ve read our story, then you know I actually resisted at first. But look where we are now. Speaking of love…there are a few traits I’ve
learned are really important in the person you choose to spend your life with. Choose
someone who always makes you laugh. Choose someone who truly values your
happiness. And choose someone whose weirdness matches yours. Working in customer service has actually taught
me a lot about people. And the biggest
thing I’ve learned is this…it costs absolutely nothing to be kind. Smile, be
polite, offer a kind word. You have no idea how much of a difference it can
make. I’ve found myself in this situation many
times where I’m surrounded by people who are constantly negative. And it is
emotionally exhausting. There’s always a silver lining. There’s always a
rainbow after the rain. Everyone has their own path to follow with
their own destination. And each one is like a snowflake, totally unique but
still beautiful. Another customer service inspired lesson. People are much more inclined and, in fact, happy to go out of their way to help you if you treat them with respect and kindness. Don’t be mean, don’t yell, don’t make threats; all that does is a guarantee they’ll talk about how awful you were to their coworkers. Someone once said happiness is a warm
puppy. It’s also a spoiled little dog that insists on being in your lap, an old
dog that loves belly rubs, and a giant goofball that sheds more than should be
possible. Life isn’t always happy. It isn’t always sunshine
and rainbows. Sometimes it’s sad, or scary, or heartbreaking, or hurtful. But
those dark times don’t define you, they don’t make you the person you are. They
are just things that happen to you. There is no age limit to following your
dream. Dreams don’t come with an expiration date. Keep following them and never
settle for less. It’s easy to be selfish and to want what’s
best for yourself. But there’s also joy in giving to others and putting their
needs before your own. Make someone smile, it’s good for the soul. When I’m sad or having a crappy day, I watch
Disney movies or put in my headphones and dance around my house. It’s simple,
it costs nothing, and it’s guaranteed to put me in a better mood. Physically, of course, you can go home again (obviously we did). But, you won’t be the same person that left. You won’t view things quite the same way. And it can be a hard coming to that realization. It’s so easy to hit that delete button on photos
that aren’t “instaworthy” or that we don’t think we look good in. But one day,
you’ll look back and wish you had reminders of those moments. So, take the
picture and keep it. I know this sounds kind of harsh, but I
mean it in the best way. Not everyone is going to like you or agree with you.
In fact, there will always be people who have really unpleasant opinions that
they will insist on sharing. Ignore them. Only you can really know what’s best for
you. If a situation just does not feel right, for whatever reason, distance
yourself from it. If you do and your wrong, you might regret it. But if your
right and you ignore it, you will definitely regret it. I can’t remember half of the gifts I’ve
received in my life. But I remember the beach vacation we took with my family
the year I graduated high school that turned out to be the last vacation with
my grandfather. I remember the first UNC basketball game I attended with Scott
at the Dean Dome that became the site where he proposed 3 years later. Memories
and experiences last a lifetime. This is something I wish I could go back
and tell my younger self…you don’t know it all, and you never will. There’s
always going to be someone who’s smarter, or wiser, or more experienced. Learn
from them. Life is just better when you don’t have to go through it alone. Surround yourself with friends who love you at your best and tell you when you’re being your worst, who support your dreams, and who make life fun. I’ve been lucky enough to go through life with these girls by side for the past 18 years. We all come from different places, with
different beliefs, different histories, and different experiences. Therefore,
it stands to reason that we all have different opinions. And that’s okay. Just
because someone doesn’t believe exactly the same thing, doesn’t automatically
make them wrong. And it is absolutely possible to have discussions about our
different opinion without being a bully. Over the past few years, I’ve found myself working jobs I hated because I had certain expectations to meet and certain rules to follow. And at some point, I realized that I didn’t want to look back on my life in 50 years and wonder where it went. I want to enjoy life. I want my life to count. There’s always something new to kearn. You should never stop chasing dreams. Don’t quit climbing the ladder. Keep setting goals. You’re never done wanting to go further or climb higher or be better. It’s never the end of the book, just the start of the next chapter. I’ve worked around people I’m related to and people that I’ve dated. I’ve also worked closely with other people who were related or involved. It always ends up being awkward and it never ends well. It can be really uncomfortable to speak up
and disagree with someone in a situation where they are the professional and,
therefore, should know better than you. But, sometimes, that isn’t always true.
And if you’re unsure, it doesn’t hurt to voice concerns. Otherwise, you might
end up with hair that’s bleached to the point of being best described as
crunchy (or something worse). You may get another year older, you may have a few more gray hairs, you may even start seeing a few lines around the eyes. But that doesn’t mean you stop enjoying the things you once loved.
Diets suck
Be prepared for unexpected expenses
If it won’t matter in 5 years, don’t spend more than 5 minutes worrying about it
Family is everything
Mama was right
It’s OK to say no
Love happens when you least expect it
Find someone who keeps life interesting
Kindness is free
Negativity is exhausting
Don’t compare your journey to someone else’s
You can catch more flies with honey than vinegar
Diamonds Dogs are a girl’s best friendBad experiences don’t define you
It’s never too late to follow your dreams
It’s not always about you
Find joy in simple things
You can’t go home again
Capture the memories
Wolves don’t lose sleep over the opinion of sheep
Listen to your instincts
Memories over materials
You’ll never know it all
Find your tribe
Everyone is entitled to their own/opinions/beliefs
Make life count
You’re never done
Work and personal relationships do not mix
Just because they should know better doesn’t mean they do
You have to get older, but you don’t have to grow up
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